True Love Waits. Now What?

Before anything else, I would like you to know that I am writing this because I firmly believe that the revival of moral values and a strong Biblical foundation is still the best way to shake and turn the society’s standards up-side-down.

People nowadays, particularly the young ones, attach weight to the fact that, in order for them to experience real happiness, there is a need to look for people whom they believe would compliment their being, hence, have a relationship with them. To someone who hasn’t really felt what it means to love and be loved, I certainly cannot put the blame on them, for I myself have once been there. So the issue regarding true love is valid. The big question however is, “How to wait?”.

Seek God first

Put in mind that it is crucial for you to know what true love is before you can truly love. And this is exactly the main reason why relationships end up like mess. Because people are experimenting, trying to gain experiences by being into different relationships for them to discover love. But do realize this: That love is not an emotion or a feeling. Not even a state, nor a puzzle that can be solved by trial and error. It is a Person – God is love. It is not only the things that He does for you and me. It is He, Himself.

“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is Love.” (1John 4:8 NIV)

Guard your heart

In guarding your heart, it doesn’t necessarily mean preventing yourself from admiring someone. There is nothing wrong about that! Because I believe that God gave us the sense of admiration for us to also appreciate the beauty of His creations. Guarding your heart simply means to control your emotions that might lead you from falling to someone prematurely. In line with that, it is keeping our hearts pure for those who need true love from us. Besides, the Bible also tells us that God will help us guard our hearts. We just have to learn how to listen to Him.

“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7 NIV)

Guard your thoughts

Of all the people, you, yourself know that your thoughts can bring your defenses at risk. Temptation in itself is not a sin, but it might lead us to it. While waiting, it pays to keep a clean mind.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8 NIV)

Make friends

Waiting doesn’t mean you have to cut yourself off with the people around you. Of course you need friends! Life is tough. But it would have been tougher without friends. These people can also help and support you with your convictions.

“If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:10 NIV)

Look others in a different light

Joshua Harris said in his book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, that rather than looking at someone as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend, it is more important to treat one another with absolute purity and show brotherly love. By then, you would know how special each one is, in God’s sight.

“….Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters with absolute purity.” (1Timothy 5:1-2 NIV)

The course of waiting is not really as hard as you think it is. At first, I also thought the same – that the most tiring and boring thing to do is to wait. But I realized that it only gets tiring and boring when along the way, you do nothing. On the other hand, isn’t it more tiring to hop from one relationship to the other? Doesn’t your heart get tired of being broken every time you give it away to someone who doesn’t even deserve it?

Being single is not a disease for you to get rid from, as other people might think it is. It is in fact a season of your life when you can mature more and grow more, in the different aspects of life. It is a time to meet people and get to know God more.  As we wait, we should make the best of our time by responding to the call of purity. Someone may also be waiting for us. Until we meet that person, we will be able to say, “I’m worth waiting for.

My friends, True Love gives you the patience to wait. But in waiting, you do not count the days. Rather, you try to become the best person that God wants you to be for the one who is also patiently waiting for you. True Love is real. Just wait and see it happen.

Happy waiting! 🙂

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The Naked Truth

The world has many concepts about relationship. And most people fall into these, simply because: it feels good and it feels right. Sounds legit, doesn’t it? Because how can something that feels so good and feels so right be something that is actually wrong? That is why a lot of people are seeking out, trying to have a relationship with someone, thinking this could be an avenue where they can get inspiration, courage, comfort, and obviously, love from. But what kind of relationship does God truly want us to have in view of His standards?

“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9 NIV)

I am pretty sure that you are familiar with the saying, “Obey your heart…”. And if someone has ever told you this, well… don’t! The bible clearly stated that the heart is the master liar. It can make you do things even without you knowing that it is in fact, wrong. And all the while, you actually feel the exact opposite. It can place you in a world that seems to be so perfect, but in reality, just a fraud. And sometimes, you already know exactly that it’s wrong, but because the feeling is just too strong to resist, you simply don’t mind. God has put a delicate emphasis on our emotions because He precisely know what it is capable of.

“Everything is permissible – but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible – but not everything is constructive.” (1 Corinthians 10:23 NIV)

Now here’s the tricky part. This passage reinforces the concept of free will. But the context of this scripture falls in line with the fact that there are consequences to the things we do that do not fall under God’s will. So, in order for us to learn God’s view of relationship, we must take into account a simple fact: Can this relationship help me build my relationship with God, or rather be destructive with my relationship with Him.

Truly, there will be seasons in life where we feel alone. But loneliness is sometimes a required course for leadership. If God is preparing you to make an impact on this world for His kingdom, chances are, He will take you through a season of solitude. This is a season when you learn that you can’t lean upon anyone but Him for your confidence and for you to gain the strength to stand alone even when no one else stands with you. But of course, along the way, still God creates friends.

Friends are real men, who will respect a woman’s dignity, who will honor her like the valuable treasure that she is. Real men will not attempt to rip her precious pearl from its protective shell, or persuade her with charm to give away her treasure prematurely.

Real men will wait patiently until she willingly gives him the prize of her heart. And he will cherish and care for that precious prize forever.

Friends are real women who support and encourage men despite his iniquities. Real women rebuke men in truth, not in judgments, for the desire of shaping him to become the man that God wants him to be.

Girls, if you will learn to wait patiently and confidently for God to bring a Christlike man into your life, you will not be disappointed. And guys, learn to treat women like the Perfect Gentleman, Jesus Christ. If you do, you will not only be promoted out of “jerk-hood,” but you will then be worthy of a beautiful princess of purity who is saving herself just for you.

So if you think you are ready, think again. My friends, this is the naked truth.

S.I.N.

When I opened the door, immediately, someone greeted me and led me to somewhere I could sit on. And as I looked further, I saw a huge crowd very busy doing their own stuff:  Entertaining people, talking over the phone, setting up the lights and stage, mixing the sound, walking around, laughing, eating, chatting, etc.

Couple of minutes after, as I sat in a white mono-block chair located at the 13th row, 7th column of the seating arrangement, people from behind the stage started to go in front with the lights off to them. The smoke machine created some drama in the ambiance of the stage. And then suddenly, music started to play. And voila! The 5th Anniversary Celebration of our church has started!!

Everybody were dancing, jumping, shouting, singing. They were so excited and passionate! And there was I, trying to fit myself in..

After the first part of the grand celebration, everybody settled down for some sort of talking and stuff, and a video presentation after..

During the presentation, I started to notice “royal-like” red chairs located right in front of the stage intended for the VIP’s, performers, and the Music Team. From there, I saw some familiar faces and friends.

Feeling uncomfortably, I  began asking God: “Lord, didn’t I serve You first? Didn’t You put me in this church before these people? Why am I here at the back sitting in a very ordinary chair, while them, sitting comfortably in front?”.

“Oh no!! God, am I jealous?!” I asked God harshly… I thought hard and realized, that I am not. In fact, I am so proud with what they have attained and to where God has put them now. I thought harder and so realized that my question was actually, wrong! I should’ve asked God: “Lord, what happened to me…” (a rhetorical one)

Suddenly, God gave me suspenseful flashbacks…. From the day I accepted Him, served Him, and been so fruitful. And ow! That day when He gave me an opportunity to speak in front of young lives (oh boy! good old days!). Up to the day I started to turn my back on Him. To fall into temptation. To embrace sin. To forget Him. To destroy my life. And now, trying to fit myself in a place where I SHOULD BELONG. Can you imagine?

From that very moment, i quietly shed a tear and repented. With all the things that I have done and experienced, apart from Him, nothing ever seemed to have worth.

Truly, sin brings condemnation. It hides from us our true identity before God. It causes shame. Sin poisons our minds. Sin kills our passion for God. Sin deteriorates our spirit.

But the God of all grace is alive! He Himself is hope and love. God brings life. He is Almighty. His grace is ALWAYS sufficient. He is able to save us from a total wreck.

My friends, we may have the things we want. The things we need. The pleasures we ask. The perfect partner for us. The best career. A perfect family, or even the best church.. But if our life is not for Christ, WE WILL NEVER BE HAPPY ENOUGH.

Don’t give up! Let God write the story of your life. It may not always be easy, but it’s all guaranteed, worth it! Remember, strength cannot just be measured by how straight or how strong we walk. But also, when somewhere along the path, we fall, get wounded, bleed and hurt, we still stand up– No matter what. Not by our own, but through His grace that enables us.

Therefore, I say:

S– stop

I– it

N– now