Before anything else, I would like you to know that I am writing this because I firmly believe that the revival of moral values and a strong Biblical foundation is still the best way to shake and turn the society’s standards up-side-down.
People nowadays, particularly the young ones, attach weight to the fact that, in order for them to experience real happiness, there is a need to look for people whom they believe would compliment their being, hence, have a relationship with them. To someone who hasn’t really felt what it means to love and be loved, I certainly cannot put the blame on them, for I myself have once been there. So the issue regarding true love is valid. The big question however is, “How to wait?”.
Seek God first
Put in mind that it is crucial for you to know what true love is before you can truly love. And this is exactly the main reason why relationships end up like mess. Because people are experimenting, trying to “gain“ experiences by being into different relationships for them to discover love. But do realize this: That love is not an emotion or a feeling. Not even a state, nor a puzzle that can be solved by trial and error. It is a Person – God is love. It is not only the things that He does for you and me. It is He, Himself.
“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is Love.” (1John 4:8 NIV)
Guard your heart
In guarding your heart, it doesn’t necessarily mean preventing yourself from admiring someone. There is nothing wrong about that! Because I believe that God gave us the sense of admiration for us to also appreciate the beauty of His creations. Guarding your heart simply means to control your emotions that might lead you from falling to someone prematurely. In line with that, it is keeping our hearts pure for those who need true love from us. Besides, the Bible also tells us that God will help us guard our hearts. We just have to learn how to listen to Him.
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7 NIV)
Guard your thoughts
Of all the people, you, yourself know that your thoughts can bring your defenses at risk. Temptation in itself is not a sin, but it might lead us to it. While waiting, it pays to keep a clean mind.
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8 NIV)
Waiting doesn’t mean you have to cut yourself off with the people around you. Of course you need friends! Life is tough. But it would have been tougher without friends. These people can also help and support you with your convictions.
“If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:10 NIV)
Look others in a different light
Joshua Harris said in his book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, that rather than looking at someone as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend, it is more important to treat one another with absolute purity and show brotherly love. By then, you would know how special each one is, in God’s sight.
“….Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters with absolute purity.” (1Timothy 5:1-2 NIV)
The course of waiting is not really as hard as you think it is. At first, I also thought the same – that the most tiring and boring thing to do is to wait. But I realized that it only gets tiring and boring when along the way, you do nothing. On the other hand, isn’t it more tiring to hop from one relationship to the other? Doesn’t your heart get tired of being broken every time you give it away to someone who doesn’t even deserve it?
Being single is not a disease for you to get rid from, as other people might think it is. It is in fact a season of your life when you can mature more and grow more, in the different aspects of life. It is a time to meet people and get to know God more. As we wait, we should make the best of our time by responding to the call of purity. Someone may also be waiting for us. Until we meet that person, we will be able to say, “I’m worth waiting for“.
My friends, True Love gives you the patience to wait. But in waiting, you do not count the days. Rather, you try to become the best person that God wants you to be for the one who is also patiently waiting for you. True Love is real. Just wait and see it happen.
Happy waiting! 🙂